The Words in Private Speech and Self Regulation
Words that matterGreat men have said that the words we speak have a lot of energy that affects us and also the people around us.
That is why it is advised to think before we speak.
The words we say should be selective and such, which do not unnecessarily hurt the sentiments of others.
They should reflect our good qualities and help in improving other people their personality and qualities.
Even while criticizing somebody, make sure that the criticism is not aimed at hurting the person or showing him/her down.
It should help the person in getting rid of all his/her negative elements.
Apart from this, the ability of speaking good words also helps in improving ones own self.
But how can we contribute in the development of others? When we speak something, the words never go unheard.
Though they may not register in the mind of the listener(s), our words do affect the person, at least momentarily.
That is why when we praise a person, the person feels happy and on being criticized or taunted at, a bad feeling is produced.
When criticized, a person may understand the criticism from two perspectives one of disrespect and the other of benefiting him/her.
In case of disrespect, the person will develop a negative behavior towards the speaker.
But if the listener considers the words as beneficial, he/she will most probably approach the speaker to discuss the problem so that the negative can be changed into a positive quality.
So whenever a word is spoken, first consider the purpose.
In case of trying to point out a persons negative quality, make sure that the words are spoken as an advice.
While telling a colleague or a family member that what he/she spoke or did was wrong, try talking to the person in a peaceful and private environment.
Mistakes pointed out in public produce the effect of insult, however well your intentions.
Even if the other person has insulted you, try to keep yourself calm.
Request the person to talk to you.
Then, first ask him/her about the mistake you did so that any kind of a misunderstanding can be cleared.
You can advice the person to privately come and tell you your mistakes in future.
Also tell him/her how his/her behavior can produce a negative impression on others.
But all this should be done peacefully and with a good intention.
Now, another question arises how will all this help in your self-development? The answer is that when you treat others in this manner, it helps in creating a good and an extremely positive outlook towards you.
Not only other people, but you also start respecting yourself more than before.
It will also help you in developing a better personality.
You will be more patient towards others, will respect their decisions, become a good listener and be less argumentative.
This will further benefit you by creating a good rapport with your colleagues or closely binding you with your family.
People will also perceive you as someone who can be trusted and fallen back.
This new and calm self will help you in understanding and improving yourself.
You will also be able to face challenges easily and also find the best solutions.
In all, the positive words that you speak will produce a positive atmosphere at home and in office.
And for this no speaking classes are required.
The only thing required is to think and speak, to regulate your words.
This might be difficult and take some time.
But then as it has been rightly said, it might be difficult, but it cannot be impossible.
